Siti Afidah's accidental homebirth of her second baby
Alhamdulillah... a beautiful healthy baby girl was born on 25th Feb 2015 at 7.20 a.m. The moment that will never be forgotten and Alhamdulillah, Allah granted my doa to have my husband with me when I gave birth. Dear husband, thank you so much for always being by my side.
24th Feb 2015
I was in my 38th week of pregnancy and had not yet applied any leave since I still had lots of work to be done. But I felt like settling most of the things that day. Cleared most of the stuff from my workstation and did the housekeeping. I kept mentioning to everyone, the baby wants to see mama and daddy on 3/3/16. I just planned to start leave the week after since my EDD is 9/3/16. But I knew the baby can be out anytime now as my first child was born at 38th week of pregnancy.
I can feel the baby movement quite slow for the last two three days. No more hard kicking. When I mentioned it to dear husband, he said must be because of no more space for the baby to move around inside me.
25th Feb 2015
At around 1 a.m. I could feel the surge. So I woke up and did hip sway. At the same time I did the breathing. I remembered from the HypnoBirthing class, teacher Nadine had mention about the need for more oxygen. Breathing helped me eased the pain a lot.
Actually I already had that kind of pain, which I always mention to my husband as the baby 'mengeras' for the last few nights. And what I just did was, breathing, everytime baby 'mengeras'. Eventhough this is my second pregnancy, seriously I'm not so sure what contraction@surge is like. Because the baby most of the time 'mengeras' at night. And normally my husband just looked at me and sometime asked, is it time? I remembered when there is one morning he mention "I thought you're going to give birth last night" when during the night he saw me keep breathing and standing and hip swaying.
And on the day, I didn't know is it time or what. Inside my head is just that day I'll be having a meeting in the morning and will go to the clinic for weekly check up in the evening. So it is better for me to just go to sleep. Woke up again at 3 a.m.. and then 4 a.m.. Kept on breathing and went to sleep again. At 5 a.m. I decided to take shower and noticed some blood spotting. I told my husband, I guess it might be time.
It was 5.30 a.m. when I went to perform solat sunat and I know I can only perform solat when no surge. I could feel the surge again at 5.45 a.m and decided to just wait for Subuh since I can only go to the hospital after sending our son to school which the earliest would be only at 7.30 a.m. The surges came and went. So I told my husband to get our son ready for school before going to Pusat Bersalin Berisiko Rendah (PBBR) at Putrajaya. I was a bit angry because he's still lying on bed when I told him to get ready. I thought he was still surfing the internet when actually he googled on the location of PBBR. Sorry ya dear husband. We don't really know the location and actually planned to pay a visit to PBBR the coming Saturday.
After Subuh prayer, the surges got intense. I couldn't even sit. So much pain but did breathing to ease the pain. I walked around and also did hip sway. I got ready while waiting for my husband and son. Dear son got cranky that morning. He wanted to wear baju melayu not the uniform. It was around 6.30 a.m. when I laid down beside my son on the bed while my husband ironed the baju melayu. I texted teacher Nadine to ask when am I supposed to go to the hospital. I didn't even know it's actually intense already until I suddenly began to feel the pain so much. Got up from the bed and held on to my husband. I went outside of the bedroom. I couldn't stand properly because at that time I felt the baby's head down very low already. I kept thinking how am I going to the car, I can't even sit or stand now. I felt like I was going to faint and rushed to the toilet. I felt down below and could feel the water bag just around 2 inches from the vagina opening. Quickly called my husband and he confirmed it. He was quite panicked and asked if he could carry me to the car. I told him I don't think I can make it.
I told him to call the clinic which I had my regular check up. But no one picked up since it is not yet 7 a.m. For sure no one is in for work. So I told him to call Mak Teh from the nursery which our son had stayed before to get nurses number. Cause I knew there is few nurses from the clinic I had check up send their children at the same nursery. But she was not answering the phone. My husband called his sister to pick our son. But also no answer. I knew most people were busy getting ready to work at that hour.
I knew he was panicked when he paced in and out from the room. Our son started to cry because he saw me in pain. I asked my husband to just give him the ipad so he will sit still outside of the room. I asked my husband to check on me again and that is when the water broke. My husband told me he saw the baby's hair. I felt the ring of fire. But I was too scared to breath out the baby. I asked husband to call teacher Nadine and asked when can I push. I heard the conversation when teacher Nadine asked is it far to go to the hospital. My husband just mention the baby is about to be birthed. And teacher Nadine said just breath out the baby.
I told my husband I was scared. I felt the urge to push. I tried to apply the J breathing and imagine the flower blossoming. But at the same time I think I did push because I wanted it to finish quickly.
I tried to breath out the baby and my husband held the baby's head once it was out. My husband asked me to open my legs as he scared the baby can' t breath. I heard him say alalalala to the baby, as the baby's eyes were already open. The shoulder was still inside and with just another push the baby just splashed out. And I heard a cry from the baby. Just once and it's very cute cry from the baby.
I turned around and saw the baby blinking her eyes. Can't describe the feeling and how I thanked Allah for such a beautiful princess, beautiful moment. My husband passed the baby to me. Skin to skin with the baby. Asked husband to pass towel to put on the baby's body. And wipe the blood. Just held the baby and enjoyed the moment. After a while, she latched on my breast. So clever. My husband gave a light massage on my stomach to stimulate the placenta to get out. I felt another surge while the baby's latching and all the placenta came out. Alhamdulillah.
If only mothers are given the chance to give birth as they wished..there will be no stress..mothers will be very happy after giving birth..feel fresh and no stress at all..that is what I felt..no need to worry about interruption from male doctors..no need to have few times of vaginal examination..no intervention..skin to skin with the baby right after the birth..I felt so happy..wish I could record every single thing that happened..but it was unplanned..not expected at all to give birth at home with just my husband. How i wish i could capture every single moment..the beauty of giving birth. One thing for sure, it happened at home not because I didn't feel the pain. But the pain could be managed.